Monday, December 29, 2014

for the new year

Today, as other days, I took to facebook to promote my business. I honestly would not participate in facebook if I did not own a business.  In this moment in time, if you have a business you must be on every social media outlet that you can be on. I am on google+, tumblr, flicker, facebook, instagram, linkd in, twitter, and probably others that I don't know about. is a bane and a curse. A bane because it is such a great annoyance to me when my phone buzzes every 2 minutes about playing a game or another advertisement. A curse because it's a double edged sword.  We need to have it to keep in touch with our relatives, to keep in touch with friends, to promote our businesses, but we also have to listen to rants, raves, and hate mongering. 

As a wife of an African man and mother of 6 of a blended family, I have to withstand taunts, ridicules, and outrage about black males. For every ONE positive post about the GOOD, there are 10 negative posts about people that do not even deserve to be spoken about. 

A year ago, my husband, my friend and I celebrated her birthday in NYC. Clayton stayed in the city to take his mother somewhere, and my friend and I were to continue traveling to Long Island. We got on the wrong train and ended up in Camden NJ. It was 3AM.  The conductor said, 'you need to get off here, and take the other train to Long Island.' my friend said to me, 'we cannot get off here, there is a sea of black men out there.'  I looked at her and said, ' I AM MARRIED TO A BLACK MAN! does this mean that every black male is a thug, murderer, rapist, etc?'  We ended up getting off in Camden NJ, took the proper train, but ultimately that person took the 'train' right out of my life. I have not spoken to her since.

For the new year, my wish is that we evolve our thinking and learn to practice tolerance, acceptance and compassion. Every day I vow to fight against the negativity and the hate. If I throw one pebble into the water the level of the water will rise, and even if it's just a small tiny fraction, it's still a step in the right direction. And maybe, the ripples will be felt for a long time. If we all vow to be kinder to each other, to be understanding to each other, maybe the world can be alittle better. We all make a new years resolution to lose weight, to quit smoking, to make our bodies why not make the world we live in healthier too?

So for my new years resolutions, 1- I would LOVE to be healthier, to get in more exercise so I can live longer.  2- I would like to keep in touch MORE with ALL of our children. (including our 3 grandaughters) and 3- I will fight until my last breath against racism, hatred, bullying, and abuse.

best wishes for the new year..................

Sunday, December 21, 2014

My Christmas Gift for all women.............

Today as I was driving to my shop, I saw a woman in pajama pants pushing a stroller, holding on to her bag of groceries, trying to pull a toddler along.....and I thought, I was there.....  

I was there, pushing one kid in a stroller and dragging another one. No make up on, depressed and wondering when my life was going to get better. I was there,  trying to work and raise a family.  I forgot my child's snack day one day, so I purchased 28 snack bags of carmel popcorn. My clothes were always purchased at the salvation army, or my rich aunt would have pity on the poor relation and give them to me. I worked 3 jobs. I was always burning the candle at both ends. I had an abusive husband that called me a fat, greasy wop or dago on a regular basis. I was so depressed. I felt like I wasn't worth anything.

Now, I'm 52 and my children are grown. I have grandchildren now. I have a wonderful, exceptional human being for a husband.  I wonder how I did it back then. How did I get through that time of my life? It was so horrible.

So,  when women come into my shop, I want them to feel like a queen. Because we are.  We are the ones that bear the burden, the ones who try the hardest.The ones that cry the tears and take the pain.

 So ladies, when you come to my shop to see me, you get the BEST treatment. You will have a glass of wine, and someone to dress you. You need help with make up? I'll help you. You need a shoulder to cry on? I got one. Not just for Christmas day, but for all days. Why? Because I was you....................I was there.

My wish for this Christmas and for all year through is that women help each other. Because we need to. We need to be strong women for not only our children, but for other women who cannot be strong. We need each other..............

Merry Christmas, Joyous Kwaanza, Happy Hannuka, Happy Holidays,


Rose Ellen Moore

Friday, November 21, 2014

the Fall of Bill Cosby

This week in the social media was the controversy between about 15 women who have said they have been raped and Bill Cosby is the accused rapist. This whole situation is disturbing on so many levels.

First , Bill Cosby broke into acting and stand up comedy at the time when it was very rare for a black person to be recognized as a viable actor or actress. Bill Cosby had a spy series on television. He had a a cartoon, he was on commercials, he had several comedy albums, not to mention guest appearances on the Tonight Show. He portrayed a positive perception of African Americans. He loved children and showed his good rapport with them on jello commercials. He had his own series which was a joy to watch for everyone. It disturbed me greatly when all of these women came from everywhere to  call this man a rapist.   When a seed is planted, there is nothing anyone can do. The seed just continues to grow and boom ! the man that has built his reputation, his brand, his now reduced to nothing. He is a leper, a creep, the devil incarnate. The power of social media has made this man tried and judged without a courtroom venue.  The statues of limitations is long gone. There is nothing these women can do now. They can ruin his life, though. They can take hush money. Is that what they wanted and he didn't offer it? Would this man have risked e everything that he fought  so hard for as As a black American only to throw it away for some 'jelly'?

Whether Bill Cosby is guilty or not we will never  know. There is a he said she said issue and now with womens rights being at the forefront, there Are more people sympathizing with these  women. But there is no proof, no witnesses, nothing but an allegation. These women have now put current rape victims under the microscope more. These women do not realize how they have made rape situations difficult for other unfortunate rape victims .

Sadly, even though this allegation cannot be proven....Bill Cosby is now ruined.  His reputation as a family man, an educated man, a brilliant entertainer is now gone. And let's not forget the woman who is suffering the most.....his wife Camille.  Now Camille has stuck by this man because of all people, maybe she knows him more than we do.  Do I think Bill Cosby has had indiscretions  in the past? Yes.and he has admitted that t his wife. Was the woman drugged? No. So why did he have to drug these particular  women? And, by the way...this ex mistress is in jail for extortion.

My point of all this is: anyone at anytime can be in the shadows waiting for your success and at that time decide to ruin you. And when the seed is planted, there is little else you can do. Whether they want extortion money, or they just want to see you fail, the social media helps to balloon an accusation to a degree of enormous magnitude. And we as the pawns are willing to lap it up and believe it. We as a public purchase the rag papers and watch the entertainment news. So who is more guilty...Bill Cosby. ... or us?

Monday, November 3, 2014

appreciate your life.......

When I woke up this morning and saw the news about Brittany Maynard, I was sad, but I was also happy for her. She will not have to suffer, she will not have to incur any astronomical expenses that her family will have to pay. She chose to end her life as she pleases. Many people would not agree with that, saying only God has the right to end your life. But, they are not in her position and many self righteous people do not have to do the suffering , the crying, they don't have to endure the humiliation of losing control of parts of your body. And so to them, I push the ignore button. To Brittany, I look at her as a hero.

You can read her story here on MSN:

To everyone that is reading this, and who posts hate mongering pictures and jokes on facebook, like heavy people who look terrible in their clothes, or racially fueled fights and brawls, bullying on any level, or jokes against gays or religion, I hope this article puts everything in perspective.

Life is so precious. We never know what we will have to face one day to the next. It's nice to have family or friends around to help you through  pain, be it physical or mental. It hurts me to watch people make fun of, or post photos or videos of other people in pain. Where is compassion? You can't heal somethng, if you keep picking the scab.  And so, with that being said. I hope that everyone appreciates their day. Today and every day. I hope that you offer help to someone in need and I hope that you find compassion for the person who you think is a 'freak'.  Everyone is just trying to make it through life. It's tough. And while you are struggling to live your life, you never know when it will be taken from you........................
Brittany Maynard

Rose Ellen Moore

Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Magda Olivera and other centenarians

As a woman of 52 years, I am always worried about what little time left I have to do all the things that I want to do. That was, until today.   A woman inspired me in her death. Magda Olivera is a famous Italian opera singer. She died on Sept 8th at 104 years.   She was performing for people up until she passed away.   The following is a link, that you can hear (she speaks only Italian, but at the end, she sings, and even though at times she runs out of breath , her trained voice is remarkable.)

It wasn't until I searched for her video that I discovered another video....Polly Roesch, 100 years young sings with full orchestra. She brought me to tears with 'Let there be peace on earth'....Lord knows we need that now.

Then on listening to THAT video, I saw another, Lou Batori, 100 years old, skiing and enjoying himself. Born in Hungary, now skiing in Michigan.

Then I came across Fern...I love her earrings,
then Jessie, at 105...

Video after video I found of so many men and women enjoying their lives at 100+   singing, swimming, skiing, dancing, and all of them that were interviewed said the same thing. They didn't mention one thing about money. They said they look forward to friends, the love of family, the enjoyment of the things that they know how to do. The appreciate what they have and they forgive, and reminisce and appreciate every second of their lives.

Well, I'm not going to wait until I'm 100 to do that. But I hope that I make it as long as they did. I want to thank them for giving me inspiration, for lifting me up, for making me feel alive. Sometimes in the death of others, you see alot of life.

Rose Ellen Moore
1729  W Tilgman Street
Allentown PA  18104

Tuesday, September 9, 2014

Ray and Janay Rice...shame on both of you!

Today I was reading my twitter feed and found out that Janay Rice is defending her husband. He knocked her out cold, and she defended him.

I know there will be many many views on this subject. I probably will raise alot of haters out there, but the truth of the matter is this.

We have all been in relationships where it gets to the point where you want to pound the hell out of your mate. But we don't. Why? Because it's not right. Why let it get to that point?  When you argue..the best thing to do is NOTHING!   don't yell anymore. Make your point later. Don't hit, scream, call names...because nothing will resolve when you are that mad. And nothing can be taken back once it comes out.

I work with my husband every day. I go home with him every night. Are there times we argue? HELL YES! are there times I want to punch him? HELL YES! are there times he wants to punch me? HELL YES YES YES!!!!!   But we don't go there. It cannot be taken back. When we disagree....and we start to argue, we go in our corners. We get away from each other. We take a break. Lets think..lets cool down...lets regroup. Nothing gets resolved with hitting and name calling. And more than anything we realize in a bit, that this is the person who always has my back. I have his and he has mine. I love him and he loves me. After awhile the anger subsides, and we can calmy discuss the issue at hand. That's what grown mature people do.

Now this man is booted from his job. Good. I am glad that the NFL made a stand. This behavior is not acceptable.  Now Janay is defending him. This is a giant step back for every woman who has endured domestic violence.  What's the matter Janay?   Is your lifestyle now gone? Was it more important than your life and your well-being?  What if your child witnessed that horrific behavior? It would have taught a young girl child that 'it's ok to be hit by your husband' and if it were a boy child  'it would be ok to hit your wife'.   WRONG!

I hope that both of these people get counseling.  I hope Janay especially gets counseling...because I would like this woman to know something. Hitting and being hit , name calling and abuse, is NOT OK AT ALL AT ALL AT ALL!!!!!  No matter man should be dragging the woman he loves out of  an elevator on her face!   Is this marriage irrepairable? No....not if both of them get serious counseling...but they have to be serious and they MUST adhere to boundaries. God Bless them both....they need it.

Rose Ellen Moore
1729 W Tilghman Street'
Allentown, PA 18104

Saturday, August 16, 2014


Getting older is a fact of life. But you don't realize how painful and sometimes depressing it is until you hit the age where things start to happen and you can't control them.   When I was younger, I would look at my grandmother and think, 'wow...her knees really hurt her today...she really should do more moving around so she does not get stiffer.'  But now that  I am a grandmother myself, and I am at the age where my knees are beginning to hurt, I realize how hard it is to fight everyday for my health and my youth.

Also, God plays a funny joke on us as we get older. I cannot see very far, but close up, I can see very well. Too well. As I put my make up on in the morning, I am finding little lines around my eyes and mouth that I didn't have. Were they always there but I just didn't see them? I have a double chin, sometimes a triple chin all depending on how I hold my head. Which is why in almost every photo I look like I'm checking to see if it's raining.  I now realize why some women resort to plastic surgery. Because we have a little voice in our head saying, 'wait! I'm not ready!'

My husband went to the gym and saw a group of young guys playing basketball. They welcomed him in and my husband being the fantastic basketball player that he is, hung in there, but I saw him struggling to breathe. I prayed silently for him not to have a heart attack!  By the time it got to the end of the game, I was googling the nearest hospital!  Men struggle with the aging process just like women. Maybe differently,but it's a struggle just the same.

I hope that I speak for every man and woman at the age of  50+ when I say, KEEP FIGHTING THE GOOD FIGHT!  Get up in the morning with purpose! You may not look the same way you did at 18 in those jeans, but now your beauty comes in a different form. It's still there, it all depends on your attitude.   Keep as active as you can. Ok...maybe basketball isn't your sport anymore, maybe you will take up hiking...maybe swimming, long as you can still move. Aging gives you an opportunity to try something new.  And lets not forget, SEX is a sport! (yay!)

 So let those lines around your eyes and mouth be because you smile too much.  Look forward to new opportunities!  Your life isn't over, until you decide to give up. And as for me, .....that isn't happening!
Rose Ellen Moore
RCMoore for the Unique vintage/millinery

Wednesday, July 16, 2014

vintage style!

As most of you know, my husband, Clayton, and I own a vintage/millinery shop on 1729 W Tilghman Street, Allentown PA.  It's a quaint shop. Everything that is weird and wonderful is in here. If you wanted to get lost in time, and laugh until your stomach hurts, come on in here. Don't be afraid of the word VINTAGE.  Vintage means 'a moment in time' or a 'time period'. In here, you get lost in not only time, but HISTORY. It's a great place to educate your kids. Fashion was so engrossed in what was going on at that moment in time.

I have a sign on the door, please don't be put off by it. It reads, "This is not a thrift store. We are a Millinery/Vintage store. Our items are delicate and sometimes rare. Please respect our space. Mind your children and enjoy....all items damaged are considered sold, thank you."     The reason I put that up is because the items we have in here, we have taken  great pains to restore and to make wearable. A 1890's velvet cape with trim which is selling for $400 should not be thrown about, nor should someone's child with a lollipop come and touch it with his sticky hands.  We love to have people come in and browse about our shop and laugh and stroll down memory lane and ask me, 'did people really WEAR this?'  But everything old can be new again, with a touch of something new like a belt or some jewelry. Maybe some new boots or a scarf or a cool jacket. You would be surprised how many years of vintage clothing just go round and round. Great designers are inspired by the shoulder pads of the 40's and the sleek lines of the 20's.  The grand circle dresses of the 50's are so perfect for a pear shaped body! (like mine!)  And once you purchase something in a vintage shop, I can guarantee you that no one on the street will be wearing anything like it! You will be unique like a snowflake! And EVERYONE will want what you have.

I hope that you have the opportunity to come to our shop on Tilghman street. We love our customers and I love dressing them up like real live barbie dolls!  But most of all, I love to see women look like women. I like women to look and feel beautiful and appreciate every line and curve of their glorious bodie that they  live with every day. We have corsets for women who need alittle help, or who want to feel extra feminine.We have jewelry that supports women's causes all over the world. Most of all, we have unique things for women who want to be 'special'.  

thank you for reading today.....and remember:

RCMoore for the Unique Individual....................because NO ONE is quite like you!

Rose Ellen Moore

Wednesday, July 9, 2014


Compassion is something we do not see too much of in this world. We are always quick to condemn or to point a finger by never with any understanding as to 'why' a person is driven to do the things that they do.

For example, the woman that left her infant in the subway. I'm sure that you all heard of this in the news.

This woman who had a complete breakdown, left her child in the subway assuming that she would be safe. Of course, I immediately thought, 'if ANYONE ever rode the subway in NYC, that is the LAST place a child would be safe.  Obviously this woman was pushed to her limit and was not thinking clearly. If she was in a stable state of mind, she would not have left the infant alone anywhere! Sometimes desperation leads you to choose between a rock and a hard place. There is no right answer. BUT.....even though we have compassion for this individual, does that mean she is automatically forgiven and should not be punished for putting the child in harms way????

Just like the woman in Arizona who left her small children in a hot car while she was on a job interview. She did not have a sitter.....I have compassion for the woman because she was trying to better her life, she was trying to make a way for her and her children, HOWEVER, it only takes 45 minutes for a child to die in a hot car.  So what is the alternative. Should she not be punished?

Life is full of hard choices and difficult ' no win' situations. I should know, I have LIVED so many sad and sorry situations in my life.  I am a strong supporter and advocate for women. But rather than pet a woman on the head, and put her on the pity pot, we must strengthen these women and educate them. There is a penalty you must pay if you do not make a rational decision.

As women we have the weight of the world on our shoulders. Ultimately it is US that have to bear the burden of having a child, raising a child, taking care of them and making sure they are safe...while we are working to pay rent, bills and food. At the same time, always looking for a man to love us, validate us,take charge of the family, and sometimes that man that we are looking for is not there. In these times, I will say MOST of the time, those men are not there. (no disrespect to men at all , and that is for another blog) I remember back in the day I wanted to throw my hands up and say I QUIT, but then look at the faces of my 4 children and I realized that quitting was not an option! AND...if we as women, say that we cannot handle the situation, and relinquish the custody of our children, then we are condemned!!!!! We are BAD MOMMIES and should be put to death! How can a woman give up her child? as a woman that's been abused, ask a woman that has been pushed in a corner, crippled by a partner and society.

So what do we do? Yes we have compassion...but should a punishment be given, or forgiveness???? what is right? how do we fix it?   Now that's a question for a woman, because we ALWAYS try to 'fix it'.

Rose Ellen Moore

Monday, July 7, 2014


I am absolutely OUTRAGED at the fact that Joan Rivers THINKS that EVERY aspect of life MUST be a joke! This woman is so out of touch that she should RETIRE!   She walked off an interview on CNN because she thought that the person was negative. Joan...hello....Joan...YOU are the negative one. You, who makes a joke about Casey Anthony's child being dead...YOU who says negative things about almost everyone and doesn't care who it hurts. Who died and made these 4 people the appointed professionals about fashion. Kelly Osbourne is full of tats and her hair is purple....maybe that isn't appealing for some people. Why isn't that a fashion no no? Giulliana Ransic is so thin she can fold herself and put herself in an envelope and mail herself anywhere she wants to go. Why isn't her breast cancer a joke?

There are many people who dress tasteless and have no class. These fashions will never be forgotten. This goes as well for WORDS. Many things Joan has said, has absolutely NO CLASS and they will never be forgotten. I know that everyone wants their fame. But I would not like to be remembered as someone who is vicious to another woman. Especially to someone who has had a breakdown, an eating disorder, some kind of health problem or is  a victim of a poor choice.

Joan you are 80 years old. Certainly life is tough. But do you have to make it tougher? Shouldn't you use humor to soften the blow? Certainly you know what it's like not to love yourself. Since you have had so many plastic surgeries, you must not have been very happy with what you were given by nature. Well maybe some of these people who have been victims of your sharp tongue prefer to leave this world authentic. Unlike you, who has had more plastic body parts than Matell toy company.

I know that as a thick woman, even though someone made fun of me, and I laughed, deep down there is that longing to be like the long lean blonde woman. The one that society wants you to be. The one that doesn't have a big round butt, the kind that has large perky boobs, and the kind that has long silken blonde hair like golden threads. I longed to look like my Barbie doll when I was little, but instead got a thick, curvaceous body with black frizzly like hair. When I was bullied in school, it was just another nail in my confidence coffin. Even though, now at 52, I don't want to be anyone but myself, it still hurts when people are mean. and YOU Joan Rivers, are mean. You are a bully. You need to stop. Madeline Albright wrote, 'there is a special place in hell for women who do not help other women'.    Why don't you use your sharp tongue to EDUCATE, and EMPOWER, rather than BULLY and BATTER.?  But then again, maybe you wouldn't get the ratings, and I guess to you, RATINGS and MONEY are worth more than PRINCIPLE and PRIDE.

I may be nothing to you...and I may not have your money. But I never want to be you. I want to help my sisters, I love my business and I hope and pray that before you leave this earth you try to correct all the damage you have inflicted on actors, artists and musicians. These people are ecclectic and beautiful. They are different. Why are YOU making the rules. No one asked you. So, please go away. Don't go away mad, just go away.

Rose Ellen Moore

Monday, June 30, 2014

Enjoy your summer, but don't get drunk~!

 MSN actually put out a list of the 8 things you should not do when you're drunk. Yes, people...someone actually made a list of the things that you should NOT do when you're drunk. I don't know how educated this person was, but they must have been scraping for news today. The first rule should be, don't get drunk, because nothing done is excess turns out to be a positive experience.....and so ......heeeeeeeeere we go! is the first one. Do NOT take acetomenophin. Why? Because it could cause liver damage, even if you take it alone,..... and so can alcohol...therefore it creates a "cluster-f&^%$#" of toxins that could do very bad things to your liver.

Here's the next one...are you ready for this stupidity? Don't drive a boat!  Now that's rocket science. I can't even drive a boat straight if I drank water! This list just gets better.....

Do not GAMBLE!  Chances are, you will lose your money. Guess what? If you're sober, your odds of winning are just as slim.

Here's one that I really didn't know. If you are drunk, and you go in a hot tub, you MAY suffer from dehydration. Your body can not regulate it's body temp and therefore can go into convulsions, you may vomit, and even die! That one was a shocker for me.

Do not go swimming! This would be wise...if you are drunk stay away from water. There is a risk of drowning!

Here's another one that is beyond me. Do Not TAKE SHOTS! Because if you are already drunk, why would you drink MORE?!?! Taking shots makes your blood sugar spike which can cause black outs.

Do Not swallow any kind of sleeping pill or relaxant. You may put yourself in a coma...permanently!

Do not have a thing you know, that person is spilling the beans to everyone in town

These things actually made news today on (see the link above ) and I cannot believe that some of them were even posted. How about THIS newsflash....THE WORST THING YOU COULD DO TO YOUR BODY IS TO GET DRUNK! You may get 'buzzed' may feel 'tipsy' and that is a sign to STOP! Why would you continue to put yourself in a compromising situation?    The first thing on your list of 'do nots' should be DO NOT take more than 3 drinks. If you do, have a good and trusted friend take you home immediately, because you have now put yourself at risk. Gambling, driving a boat, going in a hot tub...those things are not even CLOSE to what is the most dangerous. Because YOU (a woman) now has to walk home, or walk to a cab, which puts you at risk, you must unlock your apartment door, and you have no idea who is watching you....this is a stupid list of frivolous things. First Rule....DON"T GET DRUNK...drink, but have control. Once you give up control, ANYTHING that you do, will be the wrong thing! I hope that whoever wrote this article understands this. Lets start the summer off treating ourselves well, having self respect. Party! YES! Party party party!!!!! but everything must have a limit or there may be regrets later.

Happy 4th of July!!!! from Rose Ellen and Clayton Moore

Thursday, June 19, 2014

Here's to the stuff that REALLY matters.....

As I was reading the morning news on MSN today I came across an article that was so inspiring. I was so happy to see two young actors finally 'get it'. In the wake of Kim and Kanye's wedding, which I am happy for, but ok, lets talk about something else, shall we?  I'm tired of hearing about why or why not with Obama, Congress, the economy, The Duggers, Kate plus 8 and every other reality show.  I'm hungry for a piece of news, but not that news. I am left with an empty feeling and sadness.

Why don't we talk about things that matter? Things that we CAN do something about? Today in the news was a photograph taken by the papparazzi of Emma Stone and Andrew Garfield. Instead of smiling for the cameras, or punching one of them, they simply 'tried something new'. They put their CHARITIES first. They put the needs of others before themselves. Wow..that's a wild thought.

their sign read:

", (and don't forget),," it reads. "Here's to the stuff that matters. Have a great day!"

Here's to the stuff that really matters!   Get it?  

Gilda's club was named for Gilda Radner, whom I not only LOVED but imitated way back in the late 70's. She brought me out of my shell in high school and helped me discover who I was. She was gone too soon due to ovarian cancer. This 'club' is a place that people come to , to 'live with' cancer. This place offers emotional social support as a supplement to medical care. What a great organization.

 Please click on the website above to become a member or supporter.

"The Mission of Youth Mentoring Connection (YMC) is to awaken at-risk youth to their power, unique gifts and purpose by matching them with caring adult mentors and placing that “match” within a structured group dynamic that provides the resources youth need to reach productive, conscious adulthood." 

  How badly we need a program like this in every city in America! This organization was founded in 2001...just think what could happen if we get more educated adults involved in this!

Please click on the above link to find out how you can help!

autism speaks is a  great organization that shows how you can get involved in finding a way to screen your child,  to get support if you have an autistic child, to get resources for information, to organize a walk ....there are tool kits, blogs, and so many informative things on this website. 

Click on the above link to find out how you can help, or get this information to someone who needs help. 

This is what social media is all about. I could post another selfie with a crazy wig, I could promote my business which I intend to do later, but right now Emma Stone and Andrew Garfield challenged me silently. I watched them inspire me to do the right thing. So now I'm passing it to you. 

 Here's to the stuff that REALLY matters....  I hope you pass it on

Have a great day!

Rose Ellen Moore


Tuesday, June 17, 2014


This morning as I was preparing for work, I came across one of my most favorite movies on TV...Moonstruck.  I was so happy to start my day feeling alittle nostalgic about my family and so close to my roots.

I was born in Berwick PA. A very small town where 'out of the norm' is not accepted. Where being different means that you have a mental problem. When I grew up there about 85% of the whole place was Italian/Catholic. I grew up happy and surrounded by many family members. I never had a loss for friends. My cousins and extended family were my friends.

Because of life and choices that I have made (with no regrets, I may add) , I am estranged from my family. When I see a movie like Moonstruck it gives me that sense of gives me some warmth, it reminds me where I came from. Even though my family is far from me physically as well as mentally, I still feel a sense of gratitude. I would not be the strong person that I am, had I not come from good stock. I do not hate them, but rather, I honor them for creating in me a purpose, a strong will and a backbone.

I moved here to the Allentown/Bethlehem area about 8 years ago. I was full of tears, hate, anger, and so much negativity. In that 8 years time, I manifested my own family. My husband and I have a 'mom and dad' who are 85 years old and Jewish. We have brothers and sisters, Mary and Tony who are Irish, Monica and Adrian who are latino, Sean Hassett who is latino, Danniella from Hava Java who is international, Meg, who is Italian, so many others who are African, Dominican, Greek, Syrian, Egyptian and Lebanese. I can't even begin to name them all. And for the first time while I watched Moonstruck, I did not feel a sense of loss. I felt a sense of restoration. The people who raised me brought me to a point in my life, and then it was up to me and life to bring bring me to the next point. Every thing that happens and every person in your life helps to create you and to mold you into the being that you are.

At the end of Moonstruck the family makes a toast....'alla famiglia'...'to the family!' all my family here, I salute you, I applaude you, I thank you, and most of all..........I love you....

Te amo...

Rose Ellen Moore

Friday, June 13, 2014

what have you done lately?

Today I read an article on Ruby Dee. She met Tyler Perry when he opened his studios. Tyler wrote about meeting her, saying..."I wish young people knew the price that these people have paid for us"....  He meant the older generation. They paved the way for so many things. For adversity...acceptance...human rights....they lifted us to live better and to evolve into the progressive race we are today. We owe an insurmountable debt to brave men and women who put themselves in harms way for equal rights, for humanity, for their culture or their gender. We can say that we remember soldiers on veterans day...or activists on Martin Luther King day...but what are we doing to follow in the footsteps of these people who have paved a very hard road?

What are you doing as a woman or a man to lift up your gender? Are you setting an example? Are you spending enough time with your male or female children to teach them about respect for themselves and others? Are u helping other people's' children when they  have no one? How are you helping your culture of people? Have you supported your comrades when they needed it? And have you done so without putting down another culture of people? What have you as a woman done to help or support your sisters? We need to leave a legacy just like Ruby Dee...we need to leave a message to whoever is here long after we are gone. If we Don't ....then what have we truly lived for?

When someone dies we usually pray for them. We pray for their soul to rest and for them to live in a glorious afterlife. Some of us believe that people look down upon us forever. Well...would they be proud of how we have carried on? Instead of all the prayers...why don't we show them that the greatest tribute that we can pay to a person is to continue their greatest work? Let's take care of each other...let's help each other...let's pave the way for our children's children. If we don't. ..then what is our purpose....or the question would we even have one?

Rose Ellen Moore

Wednesday, June 11, 2014

One life...I'm gonna LIVE IT UP!

This is a sign that I saw on facebook this morning!  And it's so true. Even for people who believe in reincarnation, or whatever your religious or spiritual belief is. I ask myself in the morning, if this was my last day, what would I say, would I do anything differently, how would people remember me?  So, I was curious as to what famous people said for their last words. 

Roger Ebert, famous movie critic wrote, "see you at the movies."...

Bob Hope's wife asked him where he wanted to be buried, and he responded, "surprise me."

Glenn Miller who was on a plane bound for Paris to entertain troops in WWII said, "Where the hell are the parachutes?"

Groucho Marx said, "put in my coffin, a deck of cards, a 7 iron and a pretty blonde"

John Wayne's wife asked if he knew who she was, and he said, "of course I know who you are, you're my girl, I love you."

So today I thought of my famous last words, I hope I say something funny, something people will remember, but I hope they remember that I really lived my life, in fun and laughter with alot of love.  I hope you have the opportunity to do the same. 

Rose Ellen Moore

Friday, May 30, 2014

I am ashamed of my people..................

Last night my husband was watching a sports channel with Bryant Gumbel who was discussing the world cup games in Brazil and also RACISM in Europe. I was so disheartened when I heard this discussion and I came to a realization that even in the year 2014 we have gotten NOWHERE and that all of the fighting for human rights and for equality is in vain.  How do we fix stupid? How do we correct all of the fighting over the color of a person's skin? How do we evolve into a people that is above all of this petty bigotry? Will this ever go away?

I was appalled to read an article in The Daily Beast telling of Cecile Kyenge and her painful ordeal of trying to lead a country that is drowing in the past. This woman is educated, an opthamologist in Modena, Italy. She  came from the Congo when she was 18 and adopted Italy as her country. Not only has she given back as serving the Italian people through medicine but now she wants to give back to the entire country by educating them about racism and immigration.

Europe as well as the United States must get their heads out of the.....................sand. (And maybe a piece of their anatomy as well) We must embrace every person who has something to contribute to the country and use it as advancement, rather than being imprisoned in ignnorance. I hope and pray that the Italian people overcome their stupidness and cowardice. Fear has these people stuck.
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Just last week, in my shop, a man came into my shop and said hello to me, and then turned to my husband and said..."Mabooga booga.... how do you say 'hello' in your native tongue."   My husband turned to him and said in his beautiful Trinidadian accent..."hello".... Just his simple response, so calm and collected, made the man look like a fool.  

I am ashamed of my people...Italian people?  no....white people?  I'm ashamed of this human race of people. I am ashamed that we have learned NOTHING...and I am angry. On this day...2 days after our beloved Maya Angelou passed, I MUST SPEAK OUT. I cannot go through my life like it does not matter. It matters..,.not only to ME but to US as a whole. A world divided will never be able to survive.

Rose Ellen Moore

Wednesday, May 28, 2014

Our Beloved Maya.............

Today when I got out of bed, I immediately turned on the TV only to find that our beloved voice of human rights, our voice of reason and hope has gone from us.

Maya Angelou was 86 and lived a long and eventful life, but her stay here was too short as I'm sure many of you would agree with me. She was not only the voice of a civil rights leader, but she was the voice of reason. She made sense when many things in this world did not.  I have her words on little note papers that surround my desk at my home and at work. ''People show you who they are the first time..."   yes they do, Maya. That's my favorite one. "Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an opinion...."....I love that one.

This woman was my beacon of hope. She was born poor, in the rural South. She was raped at 7 or 8, at 17 she was unwed and pregnant and at 18 she became a madam of a whore house and prostituted herself to support her and her son. This is a woman that SURVIVED ....but more than that...she became educated, inspite of anyone holding her down. She spoke seven languages fluently...FLUENTLY! It's remarkable to me that a poor black child, broken and abused, grew up to receive 13 honorary degrees! Just by her life and her joy in living it, she gives me hope.

This blog is to thank Maya Angelou.... I am sure there will be many blogs about her today. But I don't write to win awards, or to stand out or be special. I write what is on my heart to cleanse my spirit and maybe help others. So thank you Maya Angelou, ..your words helped me to find my voice. Your books lifted my spirit...and your life gives me hope.....

with gratitude and love

Rose Ellen Moore

Thursday, May 22, 2014

The body revolution!

Today when I came into work, I perused all the news articles out there. Of course there is war, new scientific studies on foods containing sugar, international news, and then I found this young girl. I was so thrilled and happy when I found this article. She made a large Titan of social media, Instagram, bow down with shame. Meghan Tonjes is pround of her body. She took a photo of herself in the same pose as she has seen celebraties and other 'thin' people take photos of themselves. But, HERS was removed by Instagram. Instagram sited their reasons as 'violating community guidelines'.....okkkkkkkkkkkk

Well, Meghan did NOT take a backseat. She took to another social media vein, Youtube, and shared with readers her personal journey through unhealthiness, health conscience food choices, parts of her body that she liked and parts of her body that she is not crazy about. But, for the most part, she loves herself. It's because of this Youtube video, that she has raised awareness of a 'body revolution'.  

Now is the time for ALL women to embrace their bodies! Enough of this....'I have to lose 5 pounds'...really? Will 5 pounds make you acceptable? Acceptable to who? Other people or yourself?  Listen...Love yourself NOW...don't wait. Years ago having extra weight was a sign of prosperity, it was attractive, it was healthy.Who said that skinny is the only way to go? Thin or fat, we are beautiful beings.  Embrace this remarkable body that has carried you through the times of your life. It has healed when you were has carried your children, has danced at parties...has lugged in groceries, biked, hiked, walked, jogged, and made love. Your body is remarkable. Appreciate it, every bit of it. It doesn't matter if you are minus a breast, or you have a prosthetic of any kind. Love yourself and be proud of yourself. Meghan is my hero your own hero....with love.

Rose Ellen Moore     (this is Meghan's youtube video ...copy and paste in your browser)

Friday, May 16, 2014

May 21,2014 my birthday!

Good Friday morning everyone! It's a rainy day here in PA...I enjoy the rain as much as the sun. Why? Well..when it rains, I curl up on the chair in my shop and watch old movies and drink Chai tea. It's calming and safe and the way that I like to feel.

Today I am doing some reflecting on my life, since it will be my 52nd birthday on May 21st. I have learned many things, and since now I am old enough to give advice, if you need some, I'll tell you what I have learned.

#1 People show you who they are ONE TIME! when you see someone's true colors, don't make excuses, this is who they are and you either accept it, or move on.

#2. Family doesn't always love you.  Loving you means accepting you. You can have a wonderful 'family' with people who are not blood related. Stop trying to 'fit in' with your so-called family when it is causing you pain and heartache.

#3  Having class and having respect for yourself is important. Hanging out all your parts does not get you a good partner in life. It will get you a fun night...or 2...or 10. People treat you the way you treat yourself!

#4. Wear what you want to wear. Enjoy your life. The day you get up in the morning is not going to be repeated. So live it with purpose and joy. (and be grateful for it!!)

#5 Don't waste time waiting for a special person, money, or things. Enjoy and be thankful for your life now. If you are not happy now, you never will be happy.

#6. Let your yes's mean YES and your no's mean NO! Don't be wishy washy. say what you need to say and mean it. Don't be afraid to stand up for what is not popular.

#7. Be tolerant of other people and their beliefs and their opinions. If you don't agree, or they are hatefully ridiculous, move away from them. A fight solves NOTHING and you can't fix stupid.

#8  Being spiritual doesn't mean carrying around a Bible, nor does it mean passing out literature, or preaching. Living your life in gratitude, serving others and loving is an example rather than a microphone.

#9 Don't wait for permission or authorization to live your life the way you want to. You will wait for the rest of your life...................

#10 Love and accept your wonderful self

Happy birthday to me....thank you for being my friend, for reading my blogs and for support of my business....most of all, thank you for being authentic beautiful beings that came into my life. I have enjoyed every minute of it and I hope to enjoy many more years!

Love, Rose Ellen

Rose Ellen Moore


Wednesday, May 14, 2014

Channel your INNER QUEEN~~~!!!!!

So......As you all know I have been having a problem with my blood sugar and my thyroid. Sometimes I feel really low. I don't fit in too many of my clothes any more and I am always tired. My joints ache and my hair is falling out. Until they get my medication straightened out, I have to persevere. My birthday is coming up in a week and I've never felt so old. I started down the depressing path of....'Oh, when I was young I had so much fun. Oh, I used to wear this and this and this. Oh, I wish I could do blah blah blah..." and the truth of it is, I'm not really that old.  When we don't feel well physically we start to get depressed so....I've decided to channel my inner queen.

My name for the day is Queen Ferocia...I'm fearless...I'm a fighter. I look good...I'm the boss of my own life, I am the captain of my own ship. I do what I want when I want. I put on something red because it's a power color, I put on my red heels because they make me feel GREAT!  The depression starts to fade. I decided to put on my BIG WIG today...the big curls in all it's glory...YES! I'm a STAR!!!! That's not enough! I need a flower! yes...a RED FLOWER! and don't forget my push up bra under my dress!  The extra long false eye lashes! YES! I am truly Queen Ferocia...and as I was sitting in the car riding to work..I took out the brightest red lipstick I had and painted on my smile. Even though we don't feel like it....sometimes with a little coaxing, we can pull out that queen that was hiding for a minute. The person who is tired, beaten, and hurting...she can be transformed. Every day is a new day to start again. As long as the sun comes up in the morning there is more hope for me.

Ladies....for anyone out there that is feeling hopeless...tired, aching and abandoned....dig deep and find the strength to pull out your inner queen. Give her a name. Talk to her. It's ok to fake it till you make it. It's not about being a size 2 or being's about HOW we make our lives. Put on all the glitz you can and soon all that black cloud will melt away. And don't worry what anyone else says...let them stay in their black cloud....

Now get out there and make it a great day...You will not live May 14.2014 ever don't waste it!

from your friend,
Queen Ferocia

Rose Ellen Moore

Thursday, May 8, 2014

Mother's Day

For those of you who don't know me personally I would like to share on this mother's day alittle of my life. I know that most of you know about my eating disorder that I have had all my life and now I will share a bit of something else.

My husband and I have 6 children collectively. We never use the word 'step' because we treat all of our children with the same love. Unfortunately things are not perfect and for one reason or another a few of our children do not talk to us or each other. We have come to accept how things are and we hope that in the future they will grow up and realize that love is unconditional and sometimes things in this life are not ideal.

The root of this problem lies with the relationship that I have with my mother, which is none. The story is long and boring so I won't even get into it. Lets just say that my mother and I haven't talked in a very long time because I have not lived my life the way she wanted me to. As a mother of 6 children that are all over the place with their religions and lifestyles, I will say that the lives my children have to live are theirs, not mine. I hope the best for them and I hope that they do good things for people and become productive members of society. I don't want to pigeon hole them into doing something that would make them unhappy. Their decisions they make, good or bad, are theirs, and they have to stand the consequences. But I love them.....and that will NEVER stop, no matter what goofy decisions they make. No matter what lifestyle they live, no matter what their feelings are about me, I love them. period.

On this Mothers Day, I would like to wish my mother a happy mother's day. Even though she does not speak to me, which is sad, but that is her choice. Do I love her? of course. She created me and I think I am wonderful!  I would not want to be anyone but myself.  I am the best part of her, Sophia (June) Villa  and my father, Alexander Matthew Holti. I am not sorry for anything nor do I have any regrets. Everything I chose good and bad, led me to where I am now. And I love my life. So on this mother's day, I thank my mother for my life. For instilling in me the creativeness that I posess and I hope that someday she comes to her senses. (my sister also) but if not, that is on them!  I will be here with the same phone number I always had, sitting in the same spot not expecting anything. They have to answer to their higher power when their life is completed.

So happy mother's day Ma...far away.....but always with me

Rose Ellen Moore
I'm the little one! 1964!

Wednesday, May 7, 2014

Women are so valuable!

Today my blog is a sad one and has nothing to do with fashion, style or the way you dress. Today I am focusing on the girls that have been kidnapped in Africa. As long as we keep these girls in our hearts and fresh in the minds of everyone, their plight will not go away. We MUST continue dialogue about these girls. We must convince people to stand up and FORCE our government to do something.

My business which is located at 1729 W Tighlman street in Allentown PA supports women. We purchase jewelry, bags, anything that is made by women all over the world, including our United States. These purchases that we make support many things. An AIDS orphanage in Africa, Autism, Sexual Slavery ('buy the bag, not the body') the 'undie fund' in Peru,...many many different causes. We try to build confidence in women and encourage women to raise up other women. I would be amiss as a supporter of women if I did not continue to speak out against sexual slavery. No woman should be forced to do ANYTHING that she did not choose to do.

Sexual exploitation is all over the world. Not just Africa, not just a third world country. Here in the United States I am saddened to say, that we have just as many problems with this as many other countries.

I urge all women out there to start small. Support your sisters every chance you get. Do something kind. Offer a kind word if you see a woman having difficulty. Don't be so quick to judge another woman when you don't know the entire story. PLEASE support your sisters no matter how small! Let the change begin with you! Maybe the ripple will be felt. We as women must change the way we think about ourselves. We must respect ourselves more. But most of all we have to drop the jealousy and support each other more. Please ladies......we must do something. But let that something begin with YOU!

Rose Ellen Moore

Saturday, May 3, 2014

Roses, Thorns, Weeds and Dandelions

I haven't blogged in awhile...mostly because we have been closed!  It has been 4 days shy of 2 MONTHS that we have been closed!  I thought this would be the end of us, but my husband, who is the most determined man I know, brought us through.  He also kept me positive when I thought the world was coming to an end.   Just goes to show you, it's not whether you win or lose, it's how you weathered the storm. Life is so chock full of weird crazy horrible things...but you can't be afraid. You have to face demons, stupidity, adversity, racism and jealousy...but in the end, if you hold your ground, you will be victorious.

And so with that being said, I would like to give out some awards today...... my husband, Clayton!  I love this man with my heart, soul and gizzard! He is amazing and extraordinary! I am blessed....

ROSES to all of our friends who helped us move. How can we ever thank you? Sometimes people don't have to say they love you....sometimes all they have to do is show up.

ROSES to our landlord!  Wow...we have a wonderful new landlord that truly wants to see our business succeed. We appreciate that...because this is one man with a vision that knows..if we succeed, he it's all good.

THORNS< WEEDS AND DANDELIONS to our previous landlord who was so unreasonable. All he cared about was money in his pocket, not his building, not the people, and definately not the city of Allentown. Some people allow greed to rule their world....and it makes them ugly.

So now that we are open, our hours are 10AM-6PM Mon thru Sat. Your handbags must be registered at the counter. We are excited and happy to serve you and we hope that you enjoy our most unusual shop!

Wednesday, February 26, 2014

my secret..............

Here we are, another day of winter, another day of snow. I haven't written a blog in awhile, because the truth be told, I am fighting a bout of depression. I only like to post positive things and try to uplift people (including myself) but it has been a tough winter on many levels. 

Most of my close friends know and now I will share with my readers that I have had an eating disorder for most of my life starting when I was 19. I am now almost 52 and I struggle on a daily basis. That is why it is so important for me to uplift women when they come into my shop. 

I was married the first time to a man who was very abusive. I was 164 pounds at the time,(which for me is a size 8)  and he would always call me CONTINUOUSLY, a "fat f*****g bitch". "Fat greasy wop"  "old hat"  "greasy dago"....this was coming from my then HUSBAND. I lived with that for a long time. I decided the only way to lose weight was to not eat. So, I ate 1/2 of a pop tart every day at 10Am and then ate nothing for the rest of the day. I became extremely gaunt and thin, I was pale, I messed up my blood sugar, I have a heart valve problem to this day, my teeth turned gray, and all the while this was going on he would say, "20 more pounds and you will be perfect".  By whose standards? What exactly is perfect? This man almost destroyed me.  When I was hungry I would rub my teeth with toothpaste. I took Correctol like asprin. I  was so worried about gaining one ounce. I weighed myself 3 times a day!!!!   Since I came from a large Italian family, divorce was a big NO NO!  But guess what, to make a long story short, I did it anyway.  I suffered the consequences, but did it anyway. To make a long story very short, I married an extraordinary man about 10 years ago, and Clayton and I have a beautiful life together. He encourages me every day. I was on a great program before I opened my shop. I ran 5 miles a day and I ate good fresh things because I was home to prepare them. I took time with myself and for a few years my weight was a constant 177 at 5'7" tall and I had curves and felt good about myself. I also went to counseling once a week. When we opened this business I did not have the time to prepare my food. I tried, I really did. Now I am up 28 pounds. Every day I fight with my mind. "dont' eat, don't eat"...what it should be saying is...'make better choices"....I am here for approx 10 hours each day and then I must go home and make hats. That requires sitting.....I must find a way to get in 30 min of exercise. I must find a way to take better care of myself.  Being snowed in as much as we have didn't help me at all. The first thing I want to make when it snows is Macaroni and cheese! My family is predisposed to obesity and heart disease. My father died of diabetes. That CANNOT be me!  I take pictures of myself to show you all, that being a bigger person is not the end of the world, but it also encourages MYSELF. Society does not think that any kind of overweight or curviness can be beautiful. Well, I have news for them. Even at 177 I was curvy, and at 164 I was curvy. I am always going to have 'junk in the trunk' because God gave it to me and it will NOT go away! So, here I am in this photo of the day. Am I depressed about my weight? sometimes, just like EVERY woman. But every day, I try. Every day I encourage myself, and every day I remember NOT to do the unhealthy eating habits that I had that have now left me with health issues. 
I encourage every woman today, 
to wrap your body as if it were a gift. Because it is! Every day is a gift! Every breath is a gift!
Don't worry that you are not a size 2....and if you are very thin, don't worry that you are not a size 6...Beauty is what you feel about YOURSELF! So, ladies and gentlemen, my secret is out. But maybe now, we can encourage each other to eat healthy, take care of ourselves and be the beautiful beings that we were meant to be!

Rose Ellen Moore

Friday, February 7, 2014

Valentine's day.....MADNESS!

As we approach Valentine's Day, I hear many women, (like last year) lament at the fact they are not 'with' anyone for this particular holiday. THEN...there are the women that are married or partnered with someone yet they do not receive a gift for this holiday. I have a few words to say for this Valentine's day..and most of them are directed to my daughter, who is feeling badly about some choices she has made, and I want to tell her that 'it's ok'.  

How did Valentine's day start? Well, there are many stories shrouded in mystery. The Catholic Church used to recognize valentine's day in honor of Valentinus who married couples against what the government said. Now the church does not recognize it.  It used to be associated with a roman feast of lupercalia...where boys and girls names were drawn from a lottery and then became 'partners' for a year.  For whatever the reason, we now have society yet again telling me how to live my life. I MUST buy a Valentine for my husband, I MUST get something from my husband....or what? he doesn't love me?  Listen, I am a non comformist. I don't listen to society telling me I must be a size 2, I must wear my hair a certain way or be a certain thing. What I do is between me and my creator. So, as far as Valentine's Day, I say this. Women, if you are not with someone, so what? If you feel that you must celebrate Valentine's Day because society tells you to, then go buy yourself a kicky pair of shoes...go treat yourself to some nice clothes. Don't worry that no one loves you...people do. Most of all, you have to love YOURSELF!  If your husband or significant other is working hard for you every day, says he loves you, washes dishes occasionally or helps with the housework, then why do you need a valentine? THERE is your valentine. A Valentine to me is PROOF...what other proof do you need when he is doing things for you?

If a Valentine is a representation of love, then love yourself most of all! Love all the things about you that make you YOU!  That gap between your teeth, your wide hips, your eyes, your hair, your tattoos, your piercings, your small boobs, your big boobs, your feet...whatever! There is NO ONE like you in the whole world! aren't you lucky to be so unique and beautiful?  Celebrate yourself on Valentine's day without feeling badly that you do not have a partner. Celebrate that your mother gave birth to you, loved you and raised you and now you are a beautiful woman that deserves the best. So don't settle! If you want a bright red shiny new automobile, would you settle for a $300 no paint  rust bucket? NO!  Patiently wait for the right deal to come along. Until then, love love love YOURSELF!  Shower love upon others, your friends, your family, your children. If your heart is broken for whatever reason this Valentine's day....don't worry. A broken heart is an open heart. More love will come in. Be patient and love yourself......................

Happy Valentine's Day from RCMoore for the Unique Individual...because NO ONE is quite like YOU!

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

Make a statement without saying a word!

You know for the past few days I have listened to people on twitter and facebook talking about the Grammy's and how they were offended by this and that and some people were appalled by the fashions. Well ladies and gentlemen, I am here to tell you..creative people are just that. They want to be unique...out of the box. They are entertainers. They are not waiting for your opinion. They are going to leave your opinion and run right to the BANK! as we sit here with our opinions. LOL!  The more outrageous that are, the more people will talk about them, good or bad. Any kind of publicity is publicity just the same. And so...did you like what Beyonce was wearing? was she too sexy? and what's with the hair? and Pharrells hat? Madonna's grills? WHO CARES! these are artists! they are going to be out of the box!

I know for myself, many people ask me, 'where do you get your inspiration to make hats?" Well, I always want to be different, outrageous and unique. Who wants to come in and purchase a hat that they see someone else wearing? We all want to be validated. We all want to be individuals. We want to feel special. At least I know that I do!  so don't be afraid of what other people think. There will always be haters. When you wear something...OWN IT! don't be AFRAID! And don't worry about other people's opinions. They don't pay your bills!

Rose Ellen Moore

Tuesday, January 28, 2014

thank you Sonya Renee!

A friend of mine, Sharon Vidmar McCarthy posted something on her facebook which inspired me to write this blog. Sonya Renee's The Body is Not an Apology. When I heard her speak on youtube, I got goosebumps. Everything I have felt in all my 51 years welled up inside of me and I wanted to shout from the rooftops how powerful I am. How powerful WE are as women. An exerpt from this poem is as follows: The body is not an apology. Do not ask for it to be pardoned as criminal. The body is not a crime. The body is not an apology. The body is not soiled, is not filth to be forgiven. The body is not an apology. The body is not calamity. the body is not a math test, the body is not a wrong answer. The body is not a failed class. You are not failing. It is not a “broken” thing to be mended, to be tossed. The body is not to be prayed for. It is to be prayed to. So, HALLELUJAH. —excerpts from "The Body Is Not An Apology" by Sonya Renee When I listened to Sonya Renee SHOUT this poem...I wanted to stand up and say YES YES YES! I am not a mistake. I don't have to make an excuse for how I look, how I think, how I do things. I am a joyful creation. Everything that I consider a flaw is a gift!! As a boutique owner I have many women come into my shop and after trying on dress after dress or jeans after jeans, I look at the disdain in their faces as they half heartedly look at themselves with scorn. Why does it matter that we are not perfect? We have survived childbirth, cancer, diseases of many kinds, bullying, chastising, criticism, hate and racism. We have carried the weight of the world on our shoulders. We have supported people in our family through sickness and depression without a regard for ourselves. We should not apologize for how we look or who we are. We are to be celebrated that survived this 'thing' called LIFE and we are still here to tell about it. We as women need to support each other, black and white. Two young black women came into my shop yesterday and told me how much they loved the vintage and hats that I have here. They enjoyed our motto which is: RCMoore for the Unique Individual, because NO ONE is quite like YOU! I told them how much I support women. Every piece of jewelry we have at the shop is in support of some women's or children's group. I try to raise up my sisters. I want my shop to be an oasis where women feel confident and powerful. In their acquired confidance and power, they will then make better choices. The women were excited and they told me they just started a black women's group. They told me they didn't know where to have their meetings. i told them to have them here. I am not a black woman, but I am a woman just the same. I am someone's daughter, mother, sister, aunt and cousin. I have had many of the same problems that black women have had. I know most of you say, no no no, you are not black, you haven't had the racism. Well, my husband is an African man from a Carribean country. I am Italian and Roma. The racism is there for both of us. I say "is" because it never goes away. We can only manage the hatred, it never ever goes away. So my message today for women, please click on the link and listen to Sonya Renee's poem. Find yourself empowered. Do not apologize for your mastectomy, for your scars, for your sagging skin, your age, your hair or lack there are a woman to be celebrated by YOURSELF first and then give yourself to the world to be celebrated. If some people do not join in the party, leave them there and move on. (youtube poem) (website) After listening to Sonya Renee, embrace your size 20 figure. Embrace your shame and your scars....the things you have gone through have made you a unique and fantastic woman. Do not apologize.......CELEBRATE!
Rose Ellen Moore

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

don't let anyone take away your worth!

My message for women today is a very simple thing. Do not give anyone permission to hurt you or discourage you. Do not give anyone permission to treat you as a doormat. Do not accept people into your life who do nothing to value your life. Your job is to know your worth and to act accordingly. Do not rule your life by emotions based on other peoples' rejection of you. YOU know YOU. YOU make sure that you love YOU. I am saying these things because someone said a hateful hurtful thing to me the beginning of this week which actually sent me to my bed. I literally could not get out of bed. It crippled me to my very bone. This person that said this was surprising to me. I never thought this person would hurt me. I was not only saddened, but shocked beyond belief. It was unbelievable to me that someone who cared about me could actually cripple me with words. The only reason why I was crippled was because I ALLOWED this person to make me feel this way. I allowed this person to take away all of my value as a person. If someone bullies you and calls you dumb, it's because they fear being dumb themselves. If someone tells you that you are a turn off it's because they have something wrong with them! if someone says you are ugly or fat, it's only because THEY want to be YOU! There are many people out there with many different problems. We need to practice compassion and understanding with these people. But understand, their problems are THEIRS and you cannot fix them. THEY have to fix THEMSELVES. It is sinful for one woman to tear down another woman. It's equally as sinful and even more so for a man to degrade or tear down a woman. I would like to say to the 7 women who were sitting at the Perkins Restaurant in Bethlehem PA, THANK YOU for making me the subject of your conversation a few nights ago. I feel honored that you made little ole me your sole subject for the evening. All the laughs that you had at my expense did not hurt me. They made me feel sorry for you because you did little or nothing to even hide your bad manners. I didn't know if it was because my husband and I are an interracial couple or if it was because I was wearing a black and white outfit complete with fringed boots. Whatever the reason, I take pride in what I wear and try very hard to present myself in the best way possible. Your opinion of me..all 7 of you...did not matter at all. If you don't like my taste, I would suggest to acquire some. But I do want you women to know, that if you would come into my shop, you would be treated with the utmost respect and I would help you dress in the style that you like and what is appropriate for your body type. Because, unlike you, I was raised to respect everyone and lift up other women. This blog is not written to vent or to tear other women down. This is proof that even when we graduate from school and we have been all through the silly relatioship issues that we had way back in the day. Still, when we are grown, we still bully and do stupid, hateful things to hurt other people just because they are different from us. Why? I am sure that if there is life on another planet, they are surely looking at us shaking their heads, asking why we cannot just live and let live. There is a song sung by Bette Midler that says, "God is watching Us...from a distance.." yes..He is. Sadly watching as we tear each other down for the color of our skin, our culture, our beliefs and all for nothing. Now Valentine's Day is in February, and we are going to spend trillions of dollars buying Valentines to profess our love to our husbands, friends or significant others. Why don't we forego the card and actually practice loving those people and actually practice kindness and tenderness? I think people would be completely shocked. We are so used to buying a card saying goopy sweetness, and yet doing something completely opposite. No matter what other people do, the only thing that we can do is control ourselves. We cannot control the actions of other people. And so in closing I will suggest to everyone, man or woman. Do NOT allow anyone to take away your worth. Do NOT allow anyone to make you feel insignificant and small. All of us in our own way are important in whatever contribution we can give to this world. In the words of Viola Davis in the movie 'The Help'....YOU ARE KIND< YOU ARE SMART< YOU ARE IMPORTANT....I AM! Rose Ellen Moore